One of the top reasons people want to get lucid in a dream is so they can experience as much amazing, safe, guilt-free lucid dream sex as they like. But unless we know how to stabilise our lucid awareness, we can forget about enjoying sex marathons in the lucid dream state.
Wouldn’t it be handy to have a guide to successful lucid dream sex?
Well, here it is!
What follows is an exclusive excerpt from The Art of Lucid Dreaming: Over 60 Powerful Practices to Help You Wake Up in Your Dreams. This brand-new release is a light-spirited, cosmic, in-depth practical book with a unique Lucidity Quiz to fast-track you to the best lucidity induction techniques for you, with 15 personalised Lucidity Programmes.
It also has many useful guides to things like navigating the lucid black void, transforming nightmares, triggering out-of-body experiences, and communicating with dream people.
Excerpt from the new release The Art of Lucid Dreaming by Clare R. Johnson, PhD. © 2020 by Clare R. Johnson, PhD. Used by permission from Llewellyn Worldwide, Ltd., www.Llewellyn.com.
Why Is Lucid Dream Sex Sometimes So Difficult?
It’s always interesting to see how the dream responds when we attempt to guide events and carry out specific dream goals. It’s only through experimenting that we’ll be able to work out the rules of the game and maintain our lucid focus no matter what happens (and dreams are full of surprises).
One popular area of dream guiding that people write to me about is sex.
Dreamers feel frustrated when the dream sex they were so intent on having doesn’t materialise in the way they wanted.
There are reports of vibrant sex goddesses melting into puddles, turning into zoo animals, or reacting lifelessly, with a lolling head and hideous blank eyes. That’s enough to turn anyone off!
But there are ways to get a dream back on track, it just takes mental focus and a familiarity with the practices in the “Getting and Staying Lucid” parts of this book. [….] Simply saying with power and conviction: “I am lucid” can snap the dream into clarity.
Difficulty guiding dreams or carrying out dream goals is often a lucidity issue rather than a “dream guiding issue”. It can also happen when we haven’t yet refined our powers of expectation and intent to the point where they automatically manifest to keep us on track.
Practice #50: A Guide To Successful Lucid Dream Sex
When we take time to prepare the ground for a lucid sex dream, it’s much more likely to manifest just as we desire.
- Spend time fantasising about exactly what you’d like to do in your ideal erotic lucid dream. Think about it in the shower, or while drifting off to sleep. The really important thing is to feel supremely confident that this scenario can and will happen easily when you are lucid in a dream. If you like, sketch your erotic scenario, or write it out in sizzling detail to solidify the powerful tools of expectation and intent. Who knows, you may even discover a new talent as an erotic fiction writer!
- When you become lucid, use the CLEAR lucid dream stabilisation technique from chapter five. Once the dream is stable, try this trick to help a gorgeous, willing sexual partner to appear: stand still, building your intent with a deep, steady breath, then declare: “When I turn around, I will find a gorgeous partner who is longing to have sex with me.” Then turn around deliberately, fully expecting to behold your lucid dream lover.
- Another way of making the ideal partner appear is to use a power word or gesture of your own invention. If you plan to do this, be sure to weave that word or gesture firmly into your waking fantasies so that it has an instant effect in the lucid dream state.
- In a dream, there’s no need for a conventional sexual partner in order to reach orgasm. Psychologist Patricia Garfield, author of the lucid dreaming classic, Creative Dreaming, reports exploding into orgasm simply by plummeting from the sky into the ocean, or using objects ranging from a rosebud to a water fountain to pleasure herself in lucid dreams. So, if your desired partner never shows up, or disintegrates in the heat of passion, there are always other options.
- It can be rewarding to appreciate lucid dream lovers as part of the magical creativity of lucid dreaming, and treat them respectfully. You never know, this may have lasting positive repercussions on the kind of lucid dream sex you experience… not to mention the kind of waking life sex you attract.
- Once you embark on your sexual encounter, don’t let the excitement make you lose your lucid focus – be ready to revert to one of the CLEAR steps any time you feel less aware.
[End of excerpt from The Art of Lucid Dreaming]
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Dr. Clare R. Johnson was the first person in the world to do a PhD on lucid dreaming as a creative tool. Past President of the International Association for the Study of Dreams, she’s a internationally known lucid dream author, speaker and teacher. Her huge lucidity guide is Llewellyn’s Complete Book of Lucid Dreaming. Further books include Mindful Dreaming (Dream Therapy) and novels Breathing in Colour and Dreamrunner. Clare runs Lucid Dreaming Ocean Retreats in beautiful Portugal.